This past weekend my wife had been given the opportunity to go on a white water rafting trip. Initially she had actually declined to go because of the previous engagements that we had. The Saturday night we had a Jack and Jill to go to and the Sunday evening was my little sisters 24th birthday dinner; her actual birthday wasn’t until Monday. Going rafting was something that she has wanted to try for quite some time so I didn’t understand why she said “no”. The Jack and Jill wasn’t overly important for her to be there, although I am in the wedding party so I was obligated to go. And my sisters birthday dinner was mostly just my sisters friends while having burgers and sausages.
It wasn’t until after I had pretty well forced her to go that she agreed and that’s when I learned her reason for not wanting to go. Fear! Not fear of the trip itself, but fear of doing something without having a plan set ahead of time. She was afraid that her world would fall apart if she seized the opportunity to mark something off of her list of things that she has wanted to do. What is the reason that we have this fear built in us that we can’t change the path that we are on? Why do we have to follow a set of rules saying that we have to go to work every day, and eat dinner at a certain time, only do fun things on the weekend, or live our life to pay our bills until a certain age and then retire from a job that we hate?
After the stressful night of convincing my wife to go on this trip and telling her that everything would be alright at home; I took the chance to really enjoy the weekend with my boys. Although there were things that were planned already, I made sure that we filled up all of our free time with things other than being on electronic devices. First we went down to the lake, walked along the shore throwing stones, scaled up the bluffs, and investigated a marooned boat. From there we went bowling and as we came home it started raining. DAMN we’re stuck inside now right??? NOPE!! Instead of hiding inside as most of the city was doing, we stripped down to our shorts and jumped on the trampoline for an hour in a torrential downpour. I’m pretty sure that all 3 of us didn’t stop laughing for at least a half hour.
Because we were at home didn’t mean that we had to follow the status quo and I challenge you not to either. Make your days full of adventure, go hiking, explore, read, travel, learn something new. Whatever you do, don’t let the fear of change direct your life. You are the only one who is at the helm and its up to you to decide which direction to go. One way is smooth, boring, and uneventful. The other is mysterious, exciting and full of amazing memories. When you are nearing the end of your life and someone asks you if you have any regrets, I hope you will be able to say that you took the path less traveled, lived your life to the fullest and the only regret that you have is that you didn’t start way sooner.