How To Live On Your Own Terms

Up until recently, I had only ever hoped that one day I might have to freedom to do as I pleased. Many days I would think about all of the opportunities that I was missing out on because I was stuck at a job that I needed to go to every day just to pay the bills. Now I do still have bills that need to be paid and there are obligations that need to be fulfilled; especially when having a family, being able to live on your own terms can be a little bit tricky but it’s not quite as difficult as many people may think.


Sometimes being able to live the life that you want, just takes “a little bit of a risk” as some might say, but I prefer the term “leap of faith”. I say leap of faith because it isn’t a risk if you consider your options. How do your days go now? You wake up in the morning, get ready for work rush out the door, usually without a proper morning routine, spend most of the day doing something that is unfulfilling, unrewarding, and very often your days are filled with stress. Once you come home, you rush to make dinner and if you have children then you are busy taking them somewhere, then after all is said and done, you sit in front of the television and zone out until it’s time to go to bed. If this doesn’t sound extremely familiar then trust me, you are ahead of the game.

Now, just think about what you could be doing if you were living life how you wanted to be living. Waking up when your body is refreshed, having a nice breakfast, and getting some reading done and maybe some exercise. Spending a fair portion of the day doing whatever it is that you love to do, slowing getting the things done during the day that need to be done, instead of constantly having a feeling of being rushed all the time. Enjoying a nice dinner with your family or friends and being able to go to bed at night without the dread of work the next day. It’s not just a dream because anyone and everyone can have this, it just takes a “leap of faith”.

How much of your time at work do you think you are actually productive? 80%, 70%, 50%? The truth is that most people are probably only about 25% efficient with their time while at work. Think about the how much you would actually be able to accomplish if you were even 50% efficient, that’s twice as much work would get done during the day that you are finishing now.

Think of it this way, you have a couple options. You can try to increase your productivity at work and hopefully in time you will get a raise or a promotion and you will slowly make your way up the ladder, if you continue to show that progess. Or you can utilize the time that you are wasting at work and use it find a way to get you out of your job that you most likely dislike. Since I have left my job, I only need to work a small portion of my week, in order to make up the same wage as I was after a full week of working for someone else. It’s true that working for yourself, you have to ensure that there is enough work available to supplement your income, but even then, cut back on stuff, stop buying things just for the sake of buying something. Stop eating out and make food at home. There are so many things that can be done if you just put aside the notion that you have to “Keep up with the Jones'”.


If you don’t think that you have anything to offer anyone else, take what you love to do, even if it’s knitting, go to google and you will be able to find page after page of people who are making a living on doing that thing. Sure it will take a while, and sure it might mean you have to cut back some things, but if you make sure that you at least begin to set things up before you quit your job, then you won’t have anything to worry about. If you fail, get back up, find something else and try again, rinse and repeat. Hell get a job at a coffee shop for the time being to help get some food into your belly, then get back out there. Or in the very worst case senerio, you suck up your pride and you go get a job doing the same thing that you previously were doing.

Having multiple sources of income is also a way to ensure that you have a way to pay your bills without really needing to live on someone else’s terms. Online courses are becoming bigger and bigger and show no signs of slowing down anytime soon. There are many people that are interested in something that you know, you just have to find a way to be able to put it into writing and selling it to them. No matter what it is, that you decide, by having more than one source of income, it will ensure that even if one of your ventures does fail, you will have something coming in to be able to help make the blow a little bit easier.


If by reading this post, you have had some sort of a spark of interest into living a life on your own terms, then I strongly recommend that you read a book that many people often recommend, “The Four Hour Work Week”, By Tim Ferris. You can check out his blog at . Also start reading every book that you can get your hands on about expanding your mind to the world of possibilities around you. I don’t think that you should follow everything that every book has to offer but you should at least become aware of them and learn how to choose what is the best route for you. If you have any questions on other books then please reach out to me as I would love to help in whatever way I can.

Whatever you decide that you want to do while you are living in this world, I hope that you will do it to the full extent and that you will be able to look back on your life and say that you have no regrets.

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