Struggling. Failing. Grinding. Stretching. There are numerous words that we use when we are building something; and until the project is finished, they usually have some sort of negative context. Why do so many people refer to work as having a negative connotation? Is work tough? Yes, it can be, but if you love what you are doing then it can be awesome. For some reason, people in our society have this expectation of immediate gratification. I can’t remember where I had read it, but originally once North America was settled, the continent was filled with people who knew the value of hard work. They would do just about whatever it took to ensure that their lives and the lives of their families, would be better than the ones that they had in the “old country”. This is why North America is currently the best place to live. Unfortunately, this might not be the truth for to much longer. For every generation that passes, the willingness to actually put in the work to get what they really want is decreasing. This is mainly because each passing generation has been “given” something without having to work for it, therefore requiring less work, and making each passing generation, more lazy. This entitlement will be our downfall in the long run. Eventually, those countries and people who are willing to put in the work to get what they want and need, will soon surpass us; if we let them.
For those who are willing to put in the work, go the extra mile, stay up late and get up early, there is a world of opportunity just waiting to be taken. Unfortunately there is a majority of people who aren’t willing to put in that time. They live in a bubble of scarcity, not able to see the true abundance that our world has available. I see it every day; I see people who aren’t willing to put in the time and effort, but I also see so many people living the lives of their dreams. They have taken that leap, got out of their comfort zone, spent the time, failed, and hustled their way back to earn the success that they deserve. I haven’t quite gotten their yet, but I will get there. How do I know? Because I’m not looking at what I’m doing today, tomorrow or next year. I know what I have to do those days. I’m looking at what my life will be like in 10, 15, 20 years from now. This is something that people just can’t seem to do, and until they can make that switch to truly start looking at their future, they will love every passing day in scarcity.
I’ve not only heard it but yes I’m the past I have also had the thoughts that, “I wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t smart enough, I don’t have the skills, or it’s too difficult.” All of those thoughts and negative self talk is BS. Now, all that I hear when I someone says those things is, “I’m too lazy, it’s not important enough to me, I’m not willing to sacrifice something now for something better later.” These are the things that we need to get over and past in order to get whatever it is that we actually want. Put aside your limiting beliefs. Leave behind all of the negativity that you are carrying around. Be willing to put in the work, every single day for the next few years. Sacrifice those things that are giving you short term satisfaction. Do these thing because once you can, you will start loving that life of abundance and fulfilment.
A little story about myself. A few years back I had a goal to design and build my own house. I had the great family and a job that I enjoyed, but I had always wanted this home. I didn’t realize at the time how important setting a goal actually was. It wasn’t until after I had reached that goal that everything changed. “Now I need a new goal.” I had thought. But I had no idea what or why. I knew that I needed to be doing something but I just wasn’t sure what it was. I started learning, growing and making sure that I was the best person that I could be. Along the way I’ve learned exactly how awesome life actually can be when you are doing something for a reason. I have new goals, and new directions. I love putting in the work, I love learning as much as I can and stretching myself to new heights. It’s when we are growing and really pushing ourselves that we are being fulfilled and forget about whatever stresses that we may have thought were important in the past. The difference between these goals and the goal I had of building my home, is that I’ve learned that it isn’t actually the goal that’s important at all, it’s having a direction and moving towards it. My new goal is going to change and it’s going to grow but I will be changing and growing along the way as well. So no matter what happens, as long as I am willing to put in the work to keep growing, learning, and putting in the work to reach those goals, I will never again live with those limiting beliefs that I left behind not so long ago.